Certainly, my oldest daughter text messaging, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely alert to when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, she often rolls her sight at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the highest of her sharing list these days.
The girl went on to give the model of seeing quite definitely that she doesn’t have to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a benefit, she knows that she’s enough just as she is with or without camp to make sure you remind her of that intrinsic knowing.
Indeed, a typical young adult in so many ways, Apart from underneath the North Face cover and the Ugg boots, lurking behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent monitor, and even beyond our passionate family discussions and shared dinners, there lies your self-awareness and interior growing that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, many with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit uneven to her now, articulating that while appreciative with the sentiment, she hoped the fact that her fellow campers experienced free to be themselves further than the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family dining. In short, everywhere.
We do not need to go anywhere special or do something unusual to live our own truth. In other words, freedom to be comfortable within our own skin should not be kept for places that we visit three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all solutions, always.
While some parents drive status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for their children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those outside walls pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own do it yourself be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Yes, my daughter has her challenges, the girl’s snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, the girl can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to the woman’s parents, generally ornery. Nevertheless, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true consideration for others that will serve not only her, but the world in particular, quite well.
Whereas we encouraged all of our infants to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that decision to return is now definitely up to her. As the discussion ensued, I became almost mesmerized by her capacity to articulate the woman’s vantage point on the subject.
She assured me that she were “knocking” camp in any way and will choose to return, but any time she does go back to get another year or three, it would not be since camp experience allows the woman’s to feel more realistic in any way. Her return may be based on the conscious, singular (soul) choice to attend simply because she enJOYs the experience not really because it is a “safe” method to be herself fully in the world.
I was truly mesmerised by her expression of deep wisdom that has applied many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches because of different veins of the exterior world to figure out. What a dear girl was declaring through the example of summer season camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at closely.
Which has a palpable gratitude for all in the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to promote her deeper thoughts on this subject and beyond. She shared that while camp is touted as a spot for a be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, improve a connection to nature, and explore your core because of contemplation and solitude, the point of it all is to arrive to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, and the most importantly in the NOW.
Not necessarily what I experienced many years back (alright twenty-six many back to be exact) in the tender age of 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing with certainty if she would attend, once again, your three week all girls’ camp for the 5th summer in a row.