Internet dating at times is too challenging for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via myspace, many singles still realize it’s an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
Time and again I see singles who, without also knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in romantic relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
Accordingly, it makes no significant difference on how many dates they go and how many relationships they attempt to develop: they fail over and over again, for the simple factor that they just never take the time to understand what they do of which harms their attempts.
May well these be unrealistic objectives and fantasies about partners and relationships which travel you to expect the improbable (and blame your partners time and again)? Could this be your opinion of reality, being convinced that “your way” of thinking, feeling and accomplishing things is always “the best suited way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
These therefore resort to finding 1 and thousand excuses to justify their failures, not the least is: shortage of time. Resorting to dating services is usually one way to not take task for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
It’s as if meeting “the right person” stays only some dream. Many singles vacation resort to hiring personal luxury motor coaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of matching them with the “right” people, convincing themselves that they are simply too busy to look, investigation and find.
Self-Awareness might be the only roads you haven’t taken at this point in your attempts to find a partner with whom to develop a thriving intimacy. Paradoxically enough, could potentially be the only road which can take on your there.
But is it genuinely so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits these from finding the right person? Or simply could it be that even when that they meet a potential spouse many singles just have no idea of how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be oftentimes unaware of the many ways in which these sabotage their attempts in intimacy?
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become cognizant of a host of factors which drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your perceptions towards the other sex? May these be your worries and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized during a young age about how relationships “should” look like – emails which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?
Taking responsibility for your success or fiasco at relationships is a vital to making a significant change leading to success. It is only once you take responsibility and be accepted as truly motivated to understand, forever, what hinders your initiatives that you embark on the road to success.
It is as you ask yourself these – and other – questions; when you look inwards and observe your self; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors possess exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think how you approach partners and associations.